January 12th, 2018

A Simple Trick to Ask People Personal Questions without Being Invasive

Have you ever wanted to know something about someone but you were concerned that asking them outright for the answer might be too invasive and come across as nosy, or like you’re crossing an unspoken boundary with them?

Or perhaps you’ve only met the person or have only known them for a short period and asking the question might come across too forward because the trust just hasn’t been established yet?

Is there a way to deal with this situation effectively – or get the information you want from them without them finding your efforts too upfront or awkward?

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January 6th, 2018

Why Criticizing People Doesn’t Get Them to Change (and What Actually Works)

Do you ever criticize the people in your life, hoping it will get them to change themselves or their behavior?

When people act in ways that turn you off, do you ever find fault with them by condemning them for what they’re “doing wrong”?

You know, do you ever find yourself saying: “You never [insert desirable behavior]” or “You always [insert undesirable behavior]”?

You want them to change, right?

But does this approach actually working to bring about those changes?

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January 3rd, 2018

Why People Throw Temper Tantrums and How to Handle Them

Have you ever had someone throw a temper tantrum in your presence – and we’re not talking about a child here, but a full grown adult?

You know, when things didn’t go their way or they didn’t get what they wanted from a situation, they unleashed an aggressive outburst aimed directly at you?

If so, how did you handle yourself?

How did you respond to the situation?

Did you tremble in their midst, cave under the pressure their outburst created, and ultimately back down and submit to their “demands” or “wishes”?

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January 1st, 2018

What to Say to People Who Give You Annoying Unsolicited Advice

Do you ever have people give you advice you never asked them for?

If so, and if you’re honest with your emotions, how did it make you feel?

Didn’t you ultimately feel a little victimized by it?

Didn’t it make you feel somewhat small and inferior to the person giving it, because they framed themselves in a way that made them look like they had superior knowledge and wisdom than you, even if you knew they didn’t know what they were talking about?

Well, what’s the best way to deal with this situation?

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December 27th, 2017

How to Meet People and Turn Strangers into Friends

What’s the difference between someone you consider a stranger and someone you consider a friend?

Isn’t a part of it found in the fact that, with a friend, you know things about each other and about each other’s lives?

And if that’s true, how do you intentionally go about getting to know things about other people and sharing things with them about yourself?

How do you go from talking to someone for the first time, building on that interaction, and turning that meeting into a friendship or relationship?

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December 25th, 2017

The Guaranteed Way to Increase Your Powers of Influence with People

When it’s your turn to talk in a conversation, do you ever pay attention to the span of time you take up to say what you want before turning things back onto the other person?

Would you say it’s generally more or less than 20 seconds?

Why do I ask?

Well, did you know that powerful communicators almost always know what’s happening inside the minds and internal thoughts of the people they talk to?

Isn’t that what makes them so influential – they know how people are responding internally to what they say?

But how did they come by this ability, how can you develop it in yourself, and what does it have to do with the length of time in which you speak?

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December 20th, 2017

A Common Mistake People Make When Starting Conversations and What to Do About It

When someone attempts to engage you in conversation by asking you how you’re doing, how do you usually respond?

Do you answer them by simply saying “I’m good” and leave it at that?

If so, have you ever thought about what this does to the conversation?

Doesn’t it basically shut the communication down and bring the interaction to a stand-still?

I mean, if you offer the person nothing to go on – no cues that they can capitalize and follow-up on – isn’t it likely the conversation will fizzle out before it even gets started?

So what can be done about that?

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December 11th, 2017

Why Complaining about Your Problems Makes People Resent You

Do you ever take it upon yourself to dump your problems on the people you talk to, and practically “force” them listen to your woes and complaints?

For example, and without invitation:

Do you ever complain about your relationships with the people in your life and whine about their behavior or how you don’t appreciate the way they treated you?

Do you ever bitch about the trials, tribulations and obstacles life throws your way?

Or do you ever whine about your health problems and complain about aches and pains, or start griping about your mental health issues?

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